How do you want to show up?
Recently, my coach gave me a simple assignment: pay attention to how I show up in every area of my life.
At first, it seemed straightforward. But the more I paid attention, the more I realized that showing up as the person I want to be requires awareness. It asks me to notice when to speak up and when to listen, when to say yes and when to say no, when to lean in and when to step back.
The process is both more intricate and simpler than I imagined.
One thing I've noticed is that we all have different ways of engaging.
Some people think out loud. They quickly share ideas, questions, and perspectives. Their willingness to speak helps shape the conversation. This is more my style, so I've been practicing something different: slowing down, listening longer, and creating space for others to contribute.
Others process internally. They need time to think before speaking. Their insights may come later in the conversation—or even after the meeting has ended. Over the years, I've learned that some of the most thoughtful contributions come from those who take their time.
Neither approach is right or wrong.
The invitation is to know yourself and notice what the moment calls for.
I've also noticed that when someone frustrates or intimidates me, my body knows before my mind catches up. My shoulders tighten. My stomach clenches. My breathing changes.
These physical sensations have become valuable messengers.
Instead of reacting immediately, I've been practicing pausing.
When I pause, I create space between what I'm feeling and what I choose to do next.
The same is true when I'm excited. Whether it's a conversation with someone I admire, a topic I'm passionate about, or an opportunity that energizes me, excitement can be just as disruptive as frustration. Pausing helps me stay grounded so I can respond intentionally rather than react automatically.
Here’s something worth remembering:
How we show up is not determined by what happens around us. It's shaped by our awareness of what's happening within us.
If this resonates, you might ask yourself:
When do I show up as my best self?
What situations tend to pull me off center?
What does my body tell me when I'm stressed, intimidated, or excited?
How do I want to show up in my next important conversation?
Before your next meeting, conversation, or gathering, try choosing three to five words that describe how you want to show up.
Perhaps it's curious, calm, confident, and kind.
Then notice what changes.
Growing forward, one thoughtful step at a time.
