Opposites That Feed Each Other

Bring to mind your last off-the-grid, disconnected-style vacation. If you can’t think of one, you’re not alone. Even though we know (somewhere deep down!) that taking a complete break from work will increase our work productivity, we often resist.

Giving Yourself a Break

How do you know when time away is the best way forward?

Many of us believe that getting on top of our To Do List means working harder on it, and working longer at it, even though our brains are fried, even though we’re mentally and physically exhausted. I’m practicing a new way of working, with surprising results.

Here’s the sparkling jewel I’ve discovered. When I take better care of myself, my work quality and production improves. What a revelation! Working harder and longer is not the answer. Here’s what it looks like for me these days, with it's little imperfections, of course.

Every day I write in my journal, get enough sleep, take breaks during the day for lunch and snacks, and eat well. Weekly (5-6 times) I do yoga or walk, and meditate. Every two months I get a massage. And here’s something new I just played with last week. I was in a funk. I wanted to get away from everything I was working on for a while so…I did. I gave myself a break, a mini retreat if you will, for a whole afternoon.


My time away evolved into a 45-minute drive to Yachats where for $25 I could enjoy all the amenities of the Overleaf Spa & Resort for the day — hot tubs overlooking the ocean, dry & wet saunas, and luxuriously scented lotions. After I was a clean, wet noodle, I had a hankering for a treat from one of my favorite restaurants. A dessert called Boccone Dolce called to me. The air-light meringue dissolved on my tongue, while the tang of fresh berries and the richness of whipped cream and chocolate brought an audible “Mmmmm” from my joy-filled mouth. Nestled into a booth with sun pouring through the window, I sipped a decaf cappuccino and wrote in my trusty journal. Ahhhh…

Energy level raised, anxiety level lowered, I felt centered, nourished, and excited to dive back into my work.

How will you take care of yourself & give yourself a break?

In the spirit of knowing ourselves,



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Self Care is not Selfish

Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.
— Eleanor Brownn

When was the last time you treated yourself to simple, pleasing acts of kindness? Let’s take pampering yourself to a higher level because transporting yourself into this space means you’re more receptive to hearing your inner voice. 

Taking care of yourself sends a message to your inner spirit that you’re paying attention to what’s happening inside you. It slows your body down. It quiets your mind. It allows you to sink into wordlessness. Martha Beck uses the term “wordlessness” to describe a state of mind that is meditative, open, and peaceful. From this place, you will emerge centered and back in your groove.

It’s important to understand what this is not. This is not grasping outside yourself for self gratification. Examples of this kind of misdirected self care include frantic shopping sprees, gorging on unhealthy foods (you know what those are for you), or spending money on anything beyond your means. Re-imagine what conscious pampering would look like for you. What are you aching for inside? What is your body, mind and spirit calling for now? 

One way I love to pamper myself is with a luxurious bath.

•    Turn on relaxing music.

•    Light candles. The simple act of lighting candles has the power of transforming the mundane into the sacred. It’s a way of bringing my awareness to the space, of elevating what I’m doing to a higher level. 

•    I start the water, add my special cover to the overflow drain so I can fill the tub as full as possible. Then, I add my ingredients to the water — two handfuls of epsom salts, several drops of Lavender essential oil, a few drops of Ylang Ylang, and a capful of Almond Oil. I set my washcloth and neck pillow in place, turn off the light so the candles  glow, remove my clothes, pull up my hair and step in. The initial feeling of the hot water enveloping my body is my favorite part. I let all the worries of the day fade away, breathe deep, and allow my whole self to be soothed by the cleansing water. I reconnect with the peace waiting inside me.

•    After toweling off, I lovingly rub scented lotion all over my body and slip into my favorite soft, loose, comfy pajamas.

•    I head to my bedroom, light a candle, cuddle up in bed with a book and a cup of tea.

•    Last, I remember to blow out all those candles I lit and let myself drift off to sleep.

There are an infinite number of ways to consciously pamper yourself no matter how much time you have available. It may be simply lighting a candle to bring your awareness to the space, or it maybe a full-on, luxury-has-no-limit pampering session. While you’re in this space, you may hear whispers from your inner voice or simply savor the joyful wordlessness.

What does pampering look like for you?