Talk with a Friend

My friend Sandra and I snapped a photo after having one of our solve-the-problems-of-the-world conversations.

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.” ― Shannon L. Alder

Get out of your head by talking with a friend. Speaking your thoughts aloud brings them out of your inner world and into the outer world. Dialogue helps solidify random thoughts into coherent ideas, allowing you to suss out the ideas you want to hold onto for further development and to let go of the ideas that, upon closer examination, don’t feel right for you right now.

Concepts that seem fully formed in your mind may come out of your mouth sounding half-formed. That’s okay. Speaking aloud allows you to think of the idea from different perspectives, problem-solve, analyze, and to get a feel for whether or not you can see yourself doing it in the real world. Keeping ideas locked in the imaginary safety of your mind will eventually suffocate them and you. Letting the ideas out will give them an opportunity to flourish if they’re ready to grow, or to vaporize if it’s not their time.

A friend can listen only or you can ask her to pose questions and share feedback. Either way, you’ll gain a firmer grasp on your dreams, desires, goals, challenges, and inspirations. 


Share one of your wild and wonderful ideas with a friend. This could be via email, mail, telephone, or in person. Sometimes an idea feels too unformed and vulnerable to share, and that’s okay. Share the ideas you feel slightly uncomfortable sharing (new experiences are always a bit awkward), but know the words will come streaming out once you get started. I find the idea in my mind often makes more sense and is more fully formed than the idea that comes out of my mouth. That’s the purpose of this process. Speaking the idea aloud is the first step in bringing the idea from the ideal scenario in your mind to the reality of the outside world.