changing perspective

Being Curious vs. Fixing It

Setting the Scene for this Self-Curiosity Blog

On August 10, 2015, my husband Keith and I took off on our motorcycles for a 2ish-year journey from Oregon to the tip of South America. During this time, I'm dedicating this blog to the inner journey that takes place as a result of our outer journey. 

Today is September 10, 2015 (day 31 on the road) and I'm sharing about the playful power of being curious.

I'm perched atop a fabulous yellow sofa in the home of Keith's cousin Connie, her sweetie Tommy, and her sons Ethan and Trevor. We've been in Indianapolis, Indiana for 2 days and are planning to begin meandering our way south in the morning. But first, I'd like to share how being curious totally changes my perspective.

Writing Wildly

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer

This exercise was inspired by Natalie Goldberg’s book called Wild Mind. I do it when I’m befuddled, off-center, or out of touch with my inner self. 

It will take you precisely 20 minutes. It will allow you to bypass your mind’s critical voice in order to unearth the underlying thoughts and feelings at the root of your befuddlement. 

Experiment with this process and notice what comes up for you. Approach it with the attitude of freely writing whatever comes into your mind and know you always have the option of destroying what you write.

I’m always surprised by what I write. Always. This is how I think of it. This process taps into my unconscious mind, which is similar to a computer’s operating system and provides a platform for my conscious mind to operate. Understanding more about the motivation, thoughts, assumptions, and feelings of my unconscious mind helps me understand why I’m doing what I’m doing at a conscious level. 

Dive in...

Sit quietly with a notebook and pen or pencil and follow these specific rules: 

1) Write for 10 minutes based on a writing prompt such as, “I remember” or “I know.” After you finish, write from the opposite perspective. Write for 10 minutes using a prompt such as, “I don’t remember” or “I don’t know.” 

2) Do not stop writing. Do not stop moving your pen or pencil. If you don’t know what to write, write, “I don’t know what to write,” as long as it takes, until something more comes. 

3) Go for the jugular: No editing or making it sound nice. You can destroy it after you’re finished. 

4) Don’t think, only write. 

5)Write based on a specific question or situation, or based on nothing specific.

What surprised you? What did you learn? Has your perception of the situation changed?