“Doing it your way” sounds like a dandy idea but actually having the guts to do it is a different story. Join me as I slow down that moment in time when I decide, “Yes! I’m going to do it my way!”
I have a desire to be involved in my community, to be one of the people who are making positive contributions in our world. That desire first came to me in Chile.
Burrowed deep inside my sleeping bag, on a cold morning camping in Chile during our motorcycle travels, I quickly reached out to grab my cell phone and check the US presidential election results. After I sat bolt upright to deliver the jaw-dropping news to my husband, I thought, "It's time for me to step up and be part of the change." Now, I feel the urge to put that ah-ha moment into action.
I'm looking for a place that feels right for me to be the woman I envisioned in that memorable moment. Last night, I went to a chapter meeting of NOW (National Organization for Women) and am wondering if it's the right place for me. To help me make the choice, the question that has risen above all others, is this:
What does "future me" want?
This phrase "future me" came from a friend we met during our motorcycle travels. Florian, from Germany, who we met in Bolivia, would say things like, "Oh, future me won't like that," or "Future me wants me to do this."
What a clever way to envision our future. It offers a way to choose that moves us beyond the temporary discomfort of being the newbie in the room and toward the person we want to become.
In the spirit of knowing ourselves,
Nine months ago, my husband and I hopped on our motorcycles and embarked on a radical adventure. Nine months without going to a full time job, which I did for 34 years. Nine months without a remotely regular routine. Nine months of not seeing the person I was accustomed to seeing in the mirror. Who is this new woman's face and why does she wear the same old clothes day after day?
I had to wrestle with the concept of appearance for a few months before I appreciated its meaning to me. I share my experience in this 3-minute video as I consider the affect our appearance has on our lives.
After you watch the video, here are some questions for you to ponder about your appearance.
At what age did you become aware of your appearance?
Do you recall a scene or something that someone said to you about your appearance that changed the way you thought about it? If so, how might this still be influencing your appearance today?
Complete this sentence: If I could experiment with changing my appearance, I would...
Being comfortable with our own appearance means letting go of comparing our current selves to our younger selves, to the media's portrayal of women, to other women, to what we think we 'should' look like or what we wish we looked like. To be sure, appearance plays a role in our lives but it need not be the starring role, that goes to how we show up in our lives.
In the spirit of learning,
These are my magic overalls. When I wear them, I'm reminded of my wildly creative side. I move with a confident rhythm, think abstractly, feel like the woman I am inside. When I need to get my groove back, I wear these overalls. What do you do to get your groove back, to get in touch with who you are deep inside your core? How do you show your true colors to yourself and/or to the world?
My true colors are speaking strongly now because I'm going through a transition process that's bringing up feelings about who I am and what's important to me. Keith (my husband) and I made the bold decision to quit our jobs and ride our motorcycles from Canada to the tip of South America. (I'll share more about how we arrived at this choice in another post.)
I've been vacillating between, "Holy moly! I'm so excited to go I want to take off right now!" to "Holy crap! How am I going to get all the work done at work and at home to get ready to go?" The result has been a pretty heavy load of stress, mixed with the exhilaration of starting a new adventure in life, and another thing that's tough to describe but I'm going to give it a go.
I feel like, if I'm finally traveling at the age of 51 which I have wanted to do since I was 17, what else have I really wanted to do but haven't done, yet? My most recent answer was, "Red. I've always wanted to be a red head." I researched becoming a red head online and the one thing that stuck with me is, "do not do this at home, go to a professional." Thanks to Jessica at Fine Line Hair Design, I am now a red head and TOTALLY love it. There's magic in being who you truly want to be.
How will I express my true colors next? I don't know but I know I love this trend. How about you? What have you always wanted to do but haven't done, yet?