Travel Learning: Lesson 1 of 10

Sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do to get her early morning coffee fix. Piping hot drinkable (not great) coffee is in the cover pot on the lower right.

I knew I was going to see new places, meet new people, eat new food, ride my motorcycle for thousands of miles, and learn, learn, learn. Here’s what traveling has taught me, so far.

Lesson 1 of 10: Ask for what I need.

At home, it was way easier to give myself what I needed, when I wanted it. When I needed alone time, I went out into my studio, aka Escape Pod, in our backyard. Hungry? Eat. Tired? Nap or go to bed early. Ready for coffee in the morning? Make it.

On the road, all these needs have to be done in relation to another person, my husband Keith, and the environment. It's tricky business. 

I have to consider how my need affects Keith and whether, or not, it works with where we are. A common scenario is journaling with coffee early in the morning - my favorite time of day. 

When we're in a hotel room and I'm awake at 5 or 6 am, I don't want to turn on the light and wake up Keith, plus there's hardly ever any coffee around until 8:30. Many times, journaling may get put on hold for the day. 

That’s where patience and flexibility come in. I need to eventually find a way to fit coffee and journaling into my day but, it may not be exactly when and where I wanted it to be. I'm learning to roll with it rather than be frustrated by it.

The key – for both of us – is to ask for what we need before we melt down into a whiney puddle of goo. To do that, I have to discern what I need and what I just really, really want right now. Perhaps, this is a 2 for 1 lesson. I’m learning patience and flexibility as I wait for my morning coffee, and I’m more aware of what I need to take care of myself and how to speak up and get it.

In the spirit of learning,

Jalene